The Social Introvert

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In this blog post, i delve into the implications of social media use on the lives of introverts, both the positive and the negative. Ozzy thought social anxiety was always extreme like rae’s. They generally aren’t the type of people who feel exhausted after a long day on social media, and are much more likely than introverts to go out and have a drink with some friends after work and tweet and instagram a photo while socializing with friends. Being pleasant to my coworkers is not an extrovert/introvert trait, it’s a professional trait that’s necessary in a workplace. So, mchugh stresses, it's critical to "circle back to introverts after they've had some time to consider things. Cain then proceeded to conduct a ted talk, which she highlighted that suppressing the introvert in you is a loss for the people around you. The next big disadvantage of introverts can be that. "we've found that introverted children are less likely to be admitted to a prestigious private school because they clam up in an interview," says linda kreger silverman, ph. So similar to an introvert, a shy person avoids being social. Introverts can only recharge by decreasing their stimulation and through tranquil, nonsocial solitude. Also, high reactive does not automatically equal introverted and low reactive doesn't automatically equal extroverted, but research suggests a strong correlation between the two traits. The social introvert a simple tool you can use immediately to meet and attract the hottest women in the world. Introverted personality traits cause problems when introverts don’t take regular showers, brush their teeth, or wear clean clothes. Thinking introvert, which means large groups don’t bother me, but i like having plenty of time alone to think and reflect. Unfortunately for introverts, however, every silver lining has a cloud, and when it comes to starting something new, that black cloud looming over your otherwise happy life comes in the form of the induction day, or, in introvert’s language ‘. One possibility is that many human rewards are social in nature. Social media plays such a prominent role in our lives that introverts can no longer escape it. I could then build in quiet time without worrying about the business's social media going off the rails. As an introvert, make sure that you put your ideas to work. Inner reflection is commonly used by the introvert as he or she will look within for answers versus what he or she may have been taught. Additionally, being an introvert doesn't mean that someone is antisocial. There are things you can do to manage—and possibly completely cure—your social anxiety:. I don’t necessarily see this as an introvert/extrovert thing. I find this unfortunate, as anyone who is more extroverted would probably find this a valuable read if they suspect they have an introverted boss, spouse, child, friend, roommate, etc. I'm well aware that i'm introverted. After: i take unapologetic down time after social events. Most introverts never have the need to gossip with others, they are content to sit with a few close friends and talk about their own lives and trade recipes. " but sometimes it's hard to differentiate, because sometimes people overgeneralize and assume that not being interested in y means also not being interested in x, because both are social activities, even if they're different types of social activities. I asked members of the introvert, dear facebook group what they wished other people understood about their anxiety. Research has shown that building on dominance is a short-term strategy, because new rivals try to outtake your position all the time, while building your social position on prestige can have a long-term impact. If introverted children sometimes appear withdrawn, it's only because they're more captivated by their private thoughts and feelings than they are by social interaction, says jerome kagan, ph. It sounds like you're probably a fairly extreme introvert. Because of this, many introverts are becoming “online extraverts” and are utilizing social media to show their personalities to the world. A rare few, those who were actually introverts but became semi-extroverts through their work, remain introverts, but have developed a range of social abilities. The result is that most introverts share certain characteristics:. There are introvert ceos, pop stars, authors, and engineers. That extraverts require more external stimulation than introverts has been interpreted as evidence for this hypothesis. Social settings cause distraction and loss of focus. I think most introverts have done enought soulsearching to know what they are like. This article, though focuses on what it entails to be an introvert personality, and how such persons decode reality. I never leave a social situation without regretting something i said. Maybe the fact that there are so many definitions of introversion just reflects that fact that there are multiple types of introverts. It was groundbreaking research where they found that introverted leaders deliver better outcomes than extroverts do when they’re managing proactive employees. If there was some advice for “anti-social” people, i could see this as meaningful.   introverts need to learn to relax their brains and just be in the moment to avoid becoming too wrapped up in the world inside. This is why we need to have a different word for "good at socializing" because you can be extroverted and still be an asshole and it's not going to help you build good relationships with people if that's part of your job. I’m an introvert and i’ve had overtalking habits with some colleagues; we’ve been in offices, so they’re not disruptive, but it can be a really powerful pattern that’s hard to break. What makes some people introverted, according to science. This also applies to the type of work and creative projects introverts like to take on. Introverts love spending time alone. Sooner or later, however, all introverts will experience the dreaded “introvert hangover,” which is the feeling of being completely wiped out from too much “people time” or stimulation. Walking into a loud, crowded room and having to make uncomfortable small talk is pure torture for us introverts. This is because most introverts are also very creative,  highly sensitive,. I am an introvert and i know i’m not antisocial, but before i acknowledged my introversion, i did thought i was antisocial. I've pushed myself to go to more social events, even though i balked at the idea at first, and if you find the right ones, they can be enjoyable enough to be worth the fatigue afterward. They can do the work, and are often as good as the pure extroverts, but they're rarely happy in the social hurricane environment in which the extroverts thrive. "introverts do work well in teams," says cain, citing a recent study which found that initially, team members tend to rate extroverts as better team members because they seem more engaged. 4 tips for on base socializing from an introvert. An extrovert’s brain becomes more active in response to dopamine, so they get a thrill out of highly stimulating social situations like networking events and parties. The power of introverts: a manifesto for quiet brilliance. Side: friends of mine should really check out elizabeth wagele’s book “the happy introvert”, you might just get me 😉. After reading up on inspirational books and articles related to introvert strength and coming across the social man, i came to notice that there is a place in this world for introverts, especially when it comes to dating. [46] while coworkers can "set their own level of contact," she also noted that "the ability to work from anywhere might enable more withdrawal than is healthy among introverts. I genuinely don’t know which type i am (sometimes i get energy from socializing and sometimes i need to stay inside for a whole weekend to recharge), and i don’t know anyone in my real life who identifies in those terms either. The seeming paradox of the “talkative introvert. What i didn’t understand about myself then, and what much of the world still struggles to understand about us introverts is that going out and being social does not energize us. So, if you’re an “artistic introvert”, you’d be happiest in a job that allows you to create art. The extrovert would most easily initiate conversation and get to know the introvert, and if the introvert is further interested, his or her strength will lie in keeping the relationship close for the long-term. If introverts choose not to speak, it’s because they prefer not to rather than because they are afraid. You can probably spot extroverts and introverts in your own life (including yourself) with ease. If you want to learn whether or not you're an introvert and how to cultivate a comfortable reflective atmosphere for yourself, you can learn to enjoy spending more time alone and be productive with your own faculties. It has even learned, by means of brain scans, that introverts process information differently from other people (i am not making this up). Please share your advice in the comments so that another solo traveler introvert can benefit from your experience. Researchers seem to think the distinction comes mainly from introverts being born more sensitive to external stimuli. In other words, even though extroversion is often valued in our current society, being an introvert has benefits as well. “use your introvert strength of preparation to research the key players and their background as well as the hot company issues,” she suggested. This is what as known as the more classic type of introvert. While introverts by nature, don’t like small talk and socializing, social media allows you to participate on your terms. As an introvert, you have a great capacity for. Think before we talk: "colleagues and bosses need to realize that introverts often don't know what they think immediately, and that they need time to think things through before coming to a conclusion," says joe mchugh, vice president of executive services for the edina, minnesota, office of right management consultants. By definition, an introvert gets their energy by spending time with themselves. A “social” introvert is someone who is introverted in a social way. And introvert, though they can genuinly love people, even crave people, does not usually feel like this. Since introverts and extroverts are the extremes of the scale, the rest of us fall somewhere in the middle. I wanted to explore that in more detail and to do so, i sought out an introverted therapist. Everyone acts introverted at times and extroverted at other times. There is no such thing as a pure introvert or extrovert. They also are not simply depressed individuals, although introverts just as extroverts can be depressed. The replies from ode readers were heartwarming & honest, proving that the 1 in 4 of us that are introverts aren’t alone. The outside world often feels like an assaulting force for introverts. Introverts like to hunker down and crank it out. No matter the extent of your social skills, introverted personality, or even if you deal with social anxiety in certain situations, i’ve assembled some of. For some, social media works like a news feed where they just observe what is going on and occasionally comment on things that interest them. Embrace the introverts in your life and celebrate this personality trait that gives them a unique outlook on the world. Being an "irresistible introvert" though is much easier and even more enjoyable since reading michaela chung's book. This suggests there’s a biological reason that introverts don’t seek out social interaction—they’re just not stimulated by it. You relish social life and are energized by interacting with friends and strangers alike. (since isfjs, like all sjs, are very much bound by the prevailing social conventions, their form of "service" is likely to exclude any elements of moral or political controversy; they specialize in the local, the personal, and the practical. It was something that he needed as an introvert. By the way, if you’re wondering why i’m feeling frazzled at the moment, it’s because i’ve been working my buns off to create more useful introvert resources for all my innie peeps out there. Near the end, there's a sizeable chunk on dating as an introvert and maintaining relationships. Introverts are outnumbered 3:1 in this world. It's just harder to talk about what's valuable about introversion right away, since a lot of discussion of it tends to be about what introverts don't like to do versus what they bring to the table.

The Social Introvert

And unlike introverts who feel energized by spending time alone, shy people often want to connect with others but are afraid to do so. Quiet, brought worldwide recognition to the less overt assets introverts bring to the workplace. Your job is not like your social life. Introversion/extroversion is a scale, and most introverts i know enjoy at least some activities outside the home. That’s how, as an introvert, you end up with a jam-packed social schedule when you’d rather be doing. The awakened introvert, arnie kozak, phd, provides you with simple steps to help you tap into your inner strengths and quiet the noise between your ears. On the other hand, it’s nice to hear from a mental health professional who agrees that “staying home” is a perfectly reasonable choice among options for dealing with pesty parties and other social events. Introverts and extroverts are everywhere both literally and in social media. She helpsfellow introverts step into their bolder selves and become the architects of their own future. Armed with new insight into the way introverts work best, many business leaders have made adjustments that provide quieter employees an opportunity to shine. Which means not only that introverted and extroverted brains prioritize different functions, but also that you can blame your brain the next time you get busted for not interpreting the data your senses take in from the outside world (aka spacing out). There’s nothing inherently introverted about keeping these thoughts to themselves. Social anxiety, most sources i’ve seen describe this as a more severe form of shyness, yet not as intense or debilitating as social phobia. However, parties and social events continue to exist and sometimes you have to get out of your bubble. If both were getting the same amount of work done in the same amount of time, we’d be looking at a mere difference in style, and yes in that case the introvert should be just as accommodating of the extravert. Many of the top ceos like steve jobs, warren buffet and bill gates are known introverts. I’m an introverted extrovert. It’s actually pretty hard (maybe even impossible) to find a high-paying job that requires little or no social interaction, but that’s actually okay for the common introvert. 100 introvert questions: answers to everything you want to know in 20 words or less. As a closet introvert, i’ve learned to play to my strengths and you can too. People are incredibly perceptive, and our social dynamics are much more complex than they might seem. Chatting to the person in line behind me in the grocery store is good practice for when i go to a social event that would normally make me nervous. Of course, a preference for working alone doesn’t mean introverts can’t thrive in group settings like meetings or social events. Just because i’m social doesn’t mean i expect to hang out and loudly chat all day. Some are affected only in certain social situations while others find all social encounters unbearable. Kozak's writing reflects the clarity and flow that introverts can achieve through the mindfulness exercises he weaves throughout the book. Lately, as introversion is validated and empowered, i hear folks like liam and alex proudly describing themselves as introverts, which is liberating and game-changing. I my self may be an introvert, but i think shyness is a big part of me. In fact, before you got to your list of signs it might be social anxiety, you mentioned things people do as “introverts” that you later show as “social anxiety”. For introverts, interviews are a time where they have to reach deep inside themselves and pretend like they are actually social. In our extremely social, exhibitionistic world, being an introvert can be tough. If your introverted personality is causing problems at work or home, you need to learn what the problem trait is.  as you can see, social media usage is as unique as the person clicking the share button. That’s how fear manages to rule your life when you’re socially anxious. Parents often push their introverts to be more outgoing by playing a team sport like basketball -- a tactic that can backfire because the chaos of kids shouting and running in different directions is too much to take. Distinguish between introversion and anti-social behavior. In a 2011 study on personality type and body weight, researchers noted that "lifestyle and exercise interventions that are done in a group setting may be more effective for extraverts than for introverts. In fact, says helgoe, even introverts can get a mood boost by acting like extroverts for short periods of time. So it may not be just a matter of someone not knowing whether they're an introvert or an extrovert, but it may be that that person just falls somewhere in-between the two. To further complicate things, if introverts also happen to be turbulent, they might also mimic a shy person by caring a lot about the opinions of others. I’m really no different these days where i socialize four to five nights a week than several years ago when i could barely handle two nights. Yet recent research reveals that today’s workplace may be more suited to introverted, quiet leaders. Yes, if an introvert is completely out of social energy, we might start getting a little crabby or simply zone out.  i think the book was written more for those who aren’t introverts to better understand the introverts in their lives. But sun recently found a whole new audience and pivoted the service into a social network for introverts, as counter-intuitive as that sounds. I’m an extrovert and i’m in a part of an open plan office where they put the more chatty social people and the other end is for people who enjoy a more quiet surroundings. What’s critical for introverts is to understand how to use social media to their advantage. Being a social person is not intrinsically better than being an non-social person. Laney, who explains that the dopamine our bodies produce in situations like a party tends to give extroverted kids a pleasant boost, while it can overload an introverted child's circuits. I’m definitely an introvert offline. Many times, i wish i skewed more introverted, since self-reliance is a fairly vaunted quality in the workplace, and (as has been conflated here) a few disruptive a-holes tend to be the default of how people understand extroversion. Others believe being an introvert means being a loner or antisocial. For all introverts out there, i wonder if the newly established social network anomo is a good fit for you. Ies share with introverts the ability to specialize, sometimes to extreme levels. At some points in this book, it’s hard to avoid the impression that extroverts are prats or at least that the extrovert/introvert dichotomy is really a balance of jock versus geek, played out so reliably in movies about us high schools. Introverts often have a more difficult time promoting and selling themselves, which means getting hired for the best job may be more difficult. I’m an introvert and i like it. According to their model, a person can be predominately one type (for example, you could be solely a “thinking” introvert). Day tours, half or full days, are great ways to get a little social time. I’m an introvert so i despise days filled rushing from group to group—it’s totally exhausting. Countless times when i’ve told people that i am a writer and coach for introverts they’ve asked, “so, you teach them how to be extroverted. Introverts also have a hard time sharing their feelings and feel deeply embarrassed by public mistakes. I'm a socially awkward extrovert. Previous research has also suggested that introverts have higher levels of "cortical arousal," which means they respond stronger to outside stimuli like sights and sounds. On the extroverts liking introverts front, i do think that people find value in being around introverts as well, but that since our culture tends to value extroversion, there's not a lot of positive language to talk about it. Thus i’ve been working on a list of ways to help make these events easier for us introverts to attend. What do you think makes introverts powerful. I have many introverted friends. Introverted teachers and administrators, if they are to survive, have to develop coping strategies so they, too, can maintain their equilibrium. "a lot of introverts worry that their behavior is abnormal because it may look that way up against the cultural standards in this country, but in other cultures, like in asia, being quiet and enjoying solitude are not considered weird or problematic. Indeed, says cain, some of the most transformative leaders in history — eleanor roosevelt, ghandi, rosa parks — were introverts. Those who equally enjoy social activities and their time alone are called “ambiverts. Overall, i think the irresistible introvert is a worthwhile read for anyone who is close with introverted people or people who self-identify as introverts themselves. Just relish in the silence and solitude for now, because otherwise, you might get overwhelmed at the party if you schedule too many social gatherings in one week. Introverts want to have a good time, but they can't have it around a lot of people, so, if your friend understands that, it's a great relief to the introvert. I do love to socialize but i have a period of time to get into it like you’ve written up there. I have a lot of the stereotypical traits, like not minding being alone for longer periods of time, feeling a little depleted after too much socializing, and usually preferring one on one conversations to large crowds. It’s definitely not necessary for an introvert to become extroverted in order to lead people, but it’s necessary for you to gather courage, push yourself and take the initiative to become a leader. Managers can help introverts contribute more in meetings. Introverts can also gain confidence by playing with younger kids, since it gives them the opportunity to be the leader. ” when one actually stops to look at the difference between introverts and extroverts, that assessment breaks down remarkably quickly.   one piece of feedback he’s given me is that i need to become more comfortable in semi-social situations (networking lunches or event dinners, and the like). The #1 dating program for introverted men, including  everything you need to know to double, or even triple your dating options, no matter how shy or introverted you might be. For instance, i've come up as being an introvert on every test i've ever taken, and most people who know me would describe me that way as well. The best way to approach an introvert is to ask a question about their work. I do not schedule important work on days i have big social engagements. Perhaps the first task in answering “what is an introvert. 🙁 the author is not saying that all introverts are antisocial–in fact, you can be an extrovert and be antisocial. 10 social gatherings that are a living nightmare for any introvert. A hug and a smile speak louder than words for the introvert. This helps you break out of your own self-imposed social limitations by making you feel that you're actually someone else. Sure, sometimes introverts envy an extrovert’s ability to think quickly or fit naturally into a social situation. Introvert - (psychology) a person who tends to shrink from social contacts and to become preoccupied with their own thoughts. Nobody is a complete introvert or extrovert, but most people can relate more to one type or the other. “introverts may have strong social skills and enjoy parties and business meetings, but after a while wish they were home in their pajamas. After all, many introverts prefer to avoid social situations. When they do socialize, they keep to small groups. Which brings us to the third key for a successful relationship between extroverts and introverts:. Even carl jung, creator of the introversion / extroversion theory believed “there is no such thing as a pure introvert or extrovert. I just rrcently discovered that im an introvert… and once i did everything in my life up to now makes so much sense. I’ve also heard that i’m moody because i can hang with the best in social settings but quickly move to down time. Some find it easy to hide behind the safety of the glowing laptop screen, but if communicating via keyboard is still enough to give you anxiety, it’s time to breathe a sigh of relief, fellow introvert. Introverts tend to find writing to be a second language that they can grow more comfortable with than speech. Joe mchugh, vice president of executive services for the edina, minnesota, office of right management consultants explains: “colleagues and bosses need to realize that introverts often don’t know what they think immediately, and that they need time to think things through before coming to a conclusion. This concept is especially detrimental for introverts, who are prone to comparing their time spent in solitude to the highlights of their peers.

The Social Introvert

The Social Introvert Review

” on the other hand, the introvert identifiers leaned heavily toward independence-type values like the “freedom to do what you want” and “managing my own schedule. If you are an introvert who wants to move ahead, follow the “4 ps:". The author lost me along about the time she started prattling on about "hap hits" which are things that increase a person's happiness or energy levels. The social introvert, is simple to follow program, this the social introvert you can use a complete step-by-step system of attraction that makes sleeping with the hottest girl in any group easier than tying your shoe. Based on jonathan cheek’s research, there are supposed to be four different types of introverts, each type having a slightly different flavor:. It's the career environment they prefer.   this, again, goes with the constant culture that causes our military to fear judgment. So instead of focusing on labels like “shyness,” “introversion,” or “social anxiety”, we encourage people to instead focus on (1) whether you’re nervous in social situations and (2) whether that anxiety prevents you from achieving your goals. People don’t usually fit into an introvert/extrovert binary. Perhaps you have experienced this before. The social introvert will tell you exactly what you need to do (and nothing you don’t. There are many people, like me, who are an introvert by their nature. Extraverts simply report experiencing more positive emotions, whereas introverts tend to be closer to neutral. Introverts “feel at their most alive and their most switched-on when they’re in quieter, low-key environments. Let's take a look at some interesting facts regarding introverts and the jobs in which they can thrive. One of the best jobs for introverts is blogging or writing. Cain: many introverts feel there’s something wrong with them, and try to pass as extroverts. If you want to watch the game, get a few buddies together and go to a bar. Science reports though that extroverts are often happier on the traditional measurements of happiness. Extroverts aren't the most successful in the long run at work; instead, the quiet, neurotic, introverted employees who often fret about what others think of them come out on top, according to a new study. But what does a “preference for less stimulation” even mean. The social introvert can constantly feel like someone who is living a lie to their friends: someone who occasionally exhibits extrovert qualities, but is at the end of the day an introvert, and needs to recharge their batteries. But how can you get them to open up and share. Here’s what makes it workable for me though:. I can admit something like, “sorry, i just got really overwhelmed and flustered there. I can imagine this translates to being quiet or standoffish in social situations but would later blossom into more participation in socialization. Formal educational training in medical transcription could improve your chances of finding employment in the field though. Oh, man… can’t we replace it by playing with cats. "it turns out to be more of a beginning. Get out from behind your computer. “being an introvert doesn’t mean you are shy, or don’t like people,” she says. The ie's competence gives them authority in any social group, even when they're not managers, or even particularly well known. “how can i change from introverted to extraverted,” they’re asking the wrong question. An extrovert switch for introverts. After reading some the social introvert reviews, i decided it was worth a try. If you're an extrovert, you may be able to exert your leadership more gracefully, and earn the respect and admiration of your team. I actually do not interact socially with anyone except immediate family i have no desire to engage in conversation with outsiders and will not respind to them ……. Proactive – prevention of retraumatization – avoiding crises. With practice, you will improve your social skills and overcome your fears. Do a light chuckle anyways. In one study of adult introverts between the ages of 18 and 80, those who had strong social relationships and emotional regulation skills were found to be happier than those who did not have those skills. Photograph: phil boorman/getty images/cultura rf. Introverts prefer investing their time building and strengthening close relationships to socialize in ways that play to their natural strengths of skilled listening and deep thought without the pressure of making small talk in a large group of people. Let me define what being introverted and antisocial means. So by the time they’re adults, they’ve got a good handle on social etiquette. But i guess that depends on the person and the situation. Research specific companies and occupations – don’t just look for a job. I worry about people liking me and if i am ‘good enough. Introverts don’t always realize that they’re simply drained by groups of people and that they process their thoughts differently than extroverts. Starting our countdown off are the elevator installers and repairers. Introverts lose energy when they deal with the outward world. Learning styles of introverts and extroverts. As the psychologist and academic jonathan cheek’s research done on 500 adults suggests, there are four types of introverts. In 2005, researchers at the university of amsterdam studied groups of volunteers who were identified as introverts and extroverts via a personality quiz. [59] extraverts were found to be less likely to avoid participation in noisy social activities, and to be more likely to participate in social activities such as: party games, jokes, or going to the cinema. You live it and for some reason if you don’t conform to society norms you get labeled. Introverts: like to spend time with themselves and not with a lot of people. Your strengths as an introvert will help you empathize and make critical analyses of clients as they speak, offering advice without dominating conversations. - how to compete with talkative guys. Conversely, introverted brains may not reward such behaviors, which is why introverts might find staying home with a book more rewarding than going out to a club. Focus on them for a good portion of the evening (but give them room to talk to other people, too. Our internet site offers you this quality the social introvert review thereby you would be able to find out whether it is worthwhile, or simply yet another scam. Best jobs for introverts and people who like to be alone. “it is more intimidating to walk in later when conversations and groups have already formed and you find yourself having to break into them. What is the obsession with social media. On the other side of the coin, many people believe extroverts to be attention seekers and continuously post on social media about their life. Introverts can use their calmness to create a sense of gravitas and presence, says psychologist liza walter nelson, who has expertise in work psychology. Not every introvert is an unrecognised genius. As an undeniable introvert, i was curious to get a feel for how other introverts felt about social media to determine if this topic would be good fodder for a blog post. There are cases when someone with social anxiety is not shy (see notes). “hello, my name is mack, and i am an introvert. You need to keep few things in mind:. Still, confusion reigns as to what it means to be an introvert, especially because the term is so often used as a synonym for shy, or to describe someone dealing with social anxiety disorder. If you don’t know whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert, you can figure it out very quickly, you only need to observe yourself a little bit (or you can take a test, for example, but i prefer self-reflection). I’m not sure i would have enjoyed my own process very much, but we didn’t subject everyone to these, only those we narrowed down to. There are many successful introverts, including:. My dads a big introvert and my mom is a shy extrovert. My workplace has a lot of extremely social people, and they can get loud at times, so i’m glad i can shut my door when i need to focus. Dana rousmaniere: can we talk for a minute about what it means to be an introvert. Are extraverts happier than introverts. But like you point out, that’s not the same as socializing. - wanting to stand back and get a read on a social situation before jumping in,. So, to sum up, if you think you're an introvert, you might want to read this book for the a-ha moments, of which there are many. They also might take a while to get going — they can't, for instance, wake up and immediately spring into action. The other day, someone said, “he can’t be an introvert. Hanging out with friends is fun. I’ve heard these two words used interchangeably, perhaps because being introverted often goes hand in hand with staying home a lot. Psychological types, which contains a detailed account of his personality theory. An in-depth look at how introverts think. Understand that your introverted child’s feelings may not be obvious. Such training comes through instruction and practice in public speaking, debate, drama, music, social skills, dance, and mentoring. These are the skills that need to be emphasized and developed by introverts hoping to make a place for themselves in a noisy world. I kept sharing my posts on social media, eventually starting a facebook page, my own facebook group, a twitter account, a tumblr, and pinterest boards. When you share your experience, people get to see the struggles or difficulties you’re encountering on your path. Not long ago, the introvert was commonly viewed as the sad, lesser flipside of the extrovert. And you could safely download your risk free copy of the social introvert from the special price reduction link below. Yet the stigma many still attach to being an introvert may lead people otherwise inclined to have these tendencies to resist if not deny them within themselves. This incredible amount of socialization tends to highlight the differences between personality types, especially introverts and extroverts, who are famous for their social differences. Less work to maintain satisfaction in the realm of women. After a day interacting with others, do you often need to retreat to a quiet place and have an extended amount of time all to yourself. Want to know if you have social anxiety. The awakened introvert has helped me trust my own instincts and deepened my mindfulness practice in surprising ways. -michaela chung, creator of introvert spring. Introversion is at its root a type of temperament. ”  the volume is turned up, everything is public, and we are told that the more outgoing and social you are, the better. Introverts often don't to do their best thinking in meetings. I get into the groove of this severe social anxiety and i am always worried about how others would react if i speak in front of them especially when i am in a new organisation. Psychologists mihaly csikszentmihalyi and gregory feist suggest that introverts can be more creative because they're comfortable spending time alone, a critical ingredient for creativity. So when you need someone patient, persistent, focused and methodical to oversee a project, chances are you'll find a great candidate in your workplace introvert. Introverts are often seen as shy, introspective, or antisocial, but the reality is more complicated than that—most people aren't fully introverted or extraverted, and actually fall somewhere in between. “the status and reputation of quiet, introverted leadership is undervalued and underappreciated,” williams explains in a psychology today article. I am definitely what you would call a “social introvert. There’s a lot of relationship-oriented work in my field, and there are also a lot of introverts in my field; junior people can really struggle with negotiating the seeming contradiction there (i know i did). The most common definition of an introvert may be someone who gets drained by socializing and recharges by being alone. ), we’re ready to delve into the subtleties of honoring our introversion as we make our way in the world. Creativity isn’t the only thing that spark in introverts when they’re alone. I’m a super-introvert, and i can’t work from home on a regular basis. Summary of guidelines for making new connections as an introvert:. You learn more and quicker if the other person is talking about important things. The power of the introvert in your office. It’s a simple-sounding lesson, but a very difficult one to really get, and act on. When it comes to parties, i have two factors working against me. If not alone, then most prefer hanging out with few friends they can totally trust. But at the same time, i missed other people and thought it would be easier for me if i were more social…. After you’ve pushed yourself to embrace a social situation, be sure to give yourself some quiet time to mentally and emotionally recover. Naturally, this fundamental push and pull leads also to rather predictable social situations: introverts are shyer, more reserved, and generally uncomfortable in social situations. Rather, by far the primary focus of the book is tips and techniques for surviving in an extroverted world. Many introverts have learned how to be “temporary extroverts” but in the end, their comfort zone brings them back to be an introvert. Say hi to as many people as possible. In that case, you don’t have to put pressure on yourself to meet other people or to engage in conversation. So my tips revolve around that:. I don't often read non-fiction, but when my mom got this out of the library and i read the inside flap, i knew i would have to give it a shot. Introverts can flourish in health informatics. As introverts, it’s common that we’re pushed aside, or worse, we’re labeled as not as valuable as the bigger personalities in the room. Introverts are very interesting people to talk to because of their completely different view of the world and are great to have as friends because they'll never betray you. I wish i had some brilliant stroke of insight i could share that would help others find these spaces more tolerable. At long last, introverts are having their day. How do you view social events (parties, get-together's, socials, etc. You need to begin with some formulaic phrase such as “sorry to plug my own book but…”, and then post a link to a glowing review. When you do socialize, you must show your best. But it also led to less job satisfaction and higher burn-out, since they had to act like someone they weren’t in order to be accepted,” she explains. However, that is a product of the turbulent identity and has nothing inherently to do with introversion. I really appreciate those insights and taking the time to really focus on the way the introvert mind works was pretty eye-opening. Riskology, we consider ourselves introverts but, if we’re being totally honest, we don’t all agree on what that means and often struggle to explain it in elegant terms when someone asks us, “what do you mean, you’re an introvert. Once i start burning out i can overthink myself and attempt to plan myself out of it, which actually makes things worse. Unfortunately, this article could use more editing and some added empathy. Keep looking for the best job for you as an introvert.   in addition to being a pleasure to read, it is a ‘must-read’ for anyone who is an introvert or is close to one, whether in family, a friendship, or a relationship. 5-4 on the extroversion scale. Personality type and student performance. But they're often poor listeners, and they don't collaborate," key in team efforts. I’m not sure where the “introverts like to crank it out and extroverts get work done through others comment” comes from. It contradicts anything you have posted about introverts so far. This is an untested theory i have that introverts may get a little too into the drinking portion of social events. This is hard to fathom for the world at large because so much of the social world is built by extroverts—those who crave social interaction because it’s required to feel normal.  they aren’t anti-social, they are just selectively social and carefully choose who they spend their time and energy with. We highlight the below the social introvert review which discusses every single facet of the social introvert to find out if it truly is as impressive as most people are saying or if perhaps a lot of whatever these individuals are indicating is actually part of a scam. My neighbor, a leadership development consultant who regularly helps people improve themselves through personality tests like the myers-briggs type indicator, once told me i was the most introverted person he’d ever met. Social anxiety has a very wide spectrum of severity and triggers, very dependent on the individual. All those who did these things were introverts. I was a little bit sceptical at first when i heard about the social introvert review. These chemical responses explain a lot of why different personality types prefer different activities. Everyone always thinks that if you’re introverted you’re weird, but i think it’s weird that some people have such a need to be around other people and never stop talking all the time. Probably not good of me to always assume guys talking about women, especially since i've seen you comment elsewhere. I think that going slow in the way that you described is tempting, but it can be a huge energy suck that sneaks up on you. They know much better than almost anyone else, through their early years as extroverts, what a stop-start career means. If you saw me at a dinner party or a conference, you’d probably never guess it, because i’m usually the guy telling stories, laughing loudly, and entertaining the crowd. What it really is, is that i would nurture people to get the best long term result and that i would start my observations from the start to avoid anyone falling off the boat if it can be prevented. If you are an introvert who’s just getting started with the whole personal development thing, it’s often easier (and faster) to look good from the outside than it is to actually develop social skills and deeper personality traits. My thought about why i’m this way is because women have always been mean to me, rejected me, etc. Introverts tend to be better at focusing on and completing tasks. Introversion and extroversion are temperaments. There are also ambiverts, those who are neither predominately introverted nor extroverted. While your extroverted friends are coming to the party to get energized, as an introvert you need to come prepared with your own fuel. While being an introvert has many advantages that we mentioned and that you have to put to work for your success, there are also. I like to believe that i don’t know if i’m suited to something until i try it, but i know for a fact that job isn’t for me. I wish this book had been around twenty years ago (it would have saved me a lot of confusion), but i'm glad it's here now. Next look at all the potential invitations/social events on the table, and divide them up into three categories: a/ those you genuinely want to go to, b/ those you know you really should go to, and c/ those you're quite happy to miss. However, with today's focus on being connected 24/7 and our obsession with social media, it may seem like extroverts rule the roost. Eysenck personality questionnaire, with which they assessed the traits used in the pen model (eysenck & eysenck, 1976). This one is hard for introverts. It’s not easy, but it’s definitely much easier than changing your character and becoming more agile and adaptable. But introverts seem to have some resistance to that need, the authors concluded, perhaps because they have higher cortical arousal. All this political research requires a lot of alone time, making it ideal for the everyday introvert. Social events don't give these folks anxiety. This is why for many, whether a marketer is introverted or extroverted has little influence on the type of marketer to hire. It seems that being introverted is often viewed as a liability, and introverts are often viewed with suspicion in job interview situations. And typically, the more that web introverts understand the nature of the web, the less willing they are to expose themselves on it. Introvert: why would i want to make friends with people who only talk about what they would eat out of courtney's ass. Unlike extroverts who gain energy from social interaction, introverts have to expend energy in social situations. You wish to discover the truth for your own precisely how much of the thing they state could be true and so you will need a the social introvert review you are sure that is trustworthy; and thus here we are. Despite the belief that introverts are so quiet that they can’t step up to the plate and run things, under the right circumstances they can be the best leaders of all. I had a conversation about the notion of a “nice guy. “i’m an extrovert: i often come up with my best ideas when i’m thinking out loud and collaborating with other people. In social anxiety, we think there’s something wrong with us. In 2012, though, the perception of introverts started changing. I think that the main issue here is that with the right help shyness can be overcome and social anxiety can be treated. Sometimes it is necessary to step out of your comfort zone - introverts and extroverts alike. The only problem that i see with the advice that you have is it often introverts have a difficult time speaking up for their own needs. Some social behaviors can imply apathy or lack of actual interest; if you really care about this person, let them know how your brain functions and what makes you comfortable and happy. A person who is severely shy may find it difficult to form close friendships like that, and can remain feeling awkward even around family and people they have known for their entire lives. In self-promotion for introverts®, business communication coach and intrepid introvert nancy ancowitz helps introverts tap into their quiet strengths, articulate their accomplishments, and launch an action plan for gaining career advancement. I’m definitely introverted, and found that it took a long time to accept and be comfortable with my personality. The problems arise when people don’t stop to consider the lens through which they view one another.

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You fall somewhere in the middle of the introvert-extrovert spectrum. Extroverts can spend hours and days on end around people. Shy away from certain social situations because they don’t feel savvy enough to handle them. "i don't think the answer is always that introverts need to get out there and socialize," she says, "but i do think we should be aware that sometimes we are so protective of our comfort zones, we don't take advantage of opportunities we might really enjoy. But while you can definitely be a socially anxious introvert, you can also be socially anxious extrovert—for example, you may really want to go to the bar with your co-workers but worry they actually don’t want you there. Extroverts need their time among a crowd to recharge and be able to deal with their own company. Though no one arguably achieves much success by faking, as an introvert it was exhausting having to expend so much energy, especially by faking our personalities. If you think of introversion and extraversion as a sliding scale from left to right, you’ll fall somewhere along that scale. People can sense it, and that lends them a deep authenticity that is quite priceless. Additionally, he said employers or supervisors may need to consider that the personality traits of evaluators could bring a degree of bias into evaluations, bonus awards or other personnel decisions that rely on peer-to-peer feedback. For him the notion of having a date night just with his long term partner was not an automatic. The gift of being an introvert. Raising an introvert in an extrovert world. When presented with an opportunity to participate in a group activity or game, introverts prefer to hang back and watch before they join in. If you enjoy time alone more often than not, then you are probably an introvert. What you can (optionally) avoid. If you make a few people happy and they make a few people happy, you can make a whole nation happy, and several happy nations can mean a happier planet.   being different does not mean being mentally ill. That is, it isn't necessarily better to be either an introvert or an extrovert. We got a new manager in, and he didn’t like or trust introverts, so out we went. - methods for beating extroverts, naturals, and pickup artists at their own game. Introverted kids often internalize their feelings and keep them bottled up because it’s too uncomfortable for them to let it all out, especially if it’s something they might be embarrassed about. As opposed to introverts, extroverts gain steam from being around other people and seem more bold, talkative, and assertive. This anxiety doesn’t necessarily go away when they area alone. Employees and clients can gain a very clear idea about an introverted leader’s plans, strategies, and ideas through their written messages. You want to, not because anyone else tells you “should” be a certain way. Let those you love know what you need of them. It’s a two-way street; you get what you give. Psychotherapist and introvert advocate laurie helgoe discusses in her book. You are out in town or at the store, and someone does see you and comes up to you, how do you feel. And i think my writing, regardless  how shitty and mundane it is or how decent and interesting it is, also allows for knowledge, conversation, and debates to be had about the stigma that surrounds someone who is proclaimed to be an introvert, a loner. The ie doesn't bother to put on an act, because they assume others can see through acts as easily as they can. While an introvert more likely chooses to stay home on a friday night, someone suffering from severe shyness may not think they have any choice but to stay home—and wish they were out. So as long as a job doesn’t require constant social interaction and they can get away to recharge themselves, it’s suitable for an introvert. For many of us – particularly introverts – networking can be excruciating. Introverts need a little bit more time to relax, and even more time to shine, but they will. Next time you find yourself noticing the co-worker who’s sitting quietly by herself, think about all the ways having diverse personality types on your team makes it more creative and supportive. Many introverts worry from a young age that something is wrong with them. If you're a manager, let people "get the best of their brains," as cain puts it, which in the case of most introverts means going off and thinking on their own. Introverts need a lot of personal space. If you're an office extrovert, make an effort to get to know quieter co-workers.  sharing your connections is a great way to gain new strong connections. Despite the title, she focuses very little on the actual advantages of being an introvert. Introvert burnout: 3 sneaky signs you have it + how to avoid it. I’m an introvert but have no desire to work in a completely silent environment all day. Both the dod and the va will be vital in identifying veterans with varying medical histories, combat experiences and discharges from military services. Because of this, introverts might get criticized for not fitting in, especially in childhood. Before going any further, i want to be absolutely clear: there is nothing wrong with being an introvert. Do you cringe at the idea of small talking at dinner parties. To be more precise, here’s what you should do as an introvert:. They have limited energy to deal with social situations, but that doesn’t mean they can’t learn to handle them with coping mechanisms. Slowly, our society is beginning to understand and accept the introvert’s way. I am the complete opposite, but because i struggle with social anxiety, i seem awkward and disinterested. These little things will give you confidence and make larger social situations more accessible. As a kid, i scribbled books on construction paper, and as an adult, i took writing classes, joined writers groups and filled notebook after notebook with story ideas. You can find very successful and happy people on both sides, although some research suggests that extroverts are happier in general. This is obvious to the extravert, but endlessly, thrillingly astonishing to the introvert.  i get this often, so much so that i have on my facebook page that i am “online extrovert, offline introvert. You may be surprised to know that 33-50% of people are thought to be introverts. As author susan cain explained in “quiet,” her landmark book on introverts: “shyness is the fear of social disapproval or humiliation, while introversion is a preference for environments that are not overstimulating. An introvert’s brain is actually, physically, wired differently than an extrovert’s brain.   also, having a variety of introverted and extroverted social workers in the office can compliment each other. Stimulation comes in all forms – social stimulation, but also lights, noise, and so on. • allow your child a quiet corner and always give space to recharge. You can offer to help the host, it’s a great way to warm up to the place and to have something to focus on. But, do stretch your comfort zone every now and then. This is compared to introverts, who are perfectly capable of relating to others in a healthy manner. After 40 years of thinking i was an extrovert, it turns out that i’m an introvert. Accordingly, they may be better at building and maintaining a tight-knit group of employees and partners. And that’s how many other people are. A good example of why we need to educate corporations and workplaces that introverts have their place and can also be effective leaders and managers. This one is for all of the perfectionist introverted people out there (there are a lot of us). The optimal social calendar for introverts. I don't think any of the advice was extremely original, and at times it dips into the self-help book way of talking that i often find grating and trite. When my editor asked me to write a piece to help people understand introverts in the workplace, i knew i'd have a lot to say, especially when she told me to discuss misperceptions people tend to have about introverts and the often invisible strengths they bring to the work environment. I am actually an introvert, a myers-briggs personality test infp. Introversion/extraversion affects the gaze-cueing effect. Grannemann describes introversion as a preference for spending time alone, an exhaustion that comes from faking it when networking, experiencing small talk as almost painful, and shutting down after too much socializing. Introverts are great listeners (always a good thing. It means building relationships with people and connecting with them through conversation. ), but they don’t always chime into the conversation to the same degree extroverts do, kahnweiler explains. These lists are not meant to demonstrate that being an extroverted social worker is better than being an introverted one. Here are some basic differences between introverts and extroverts:. Good jobs for introverts do exist, and they can often be discovered by recognizing that there isn't just one type of introvert. What i talk about when i talk about running contains a passage that i think neatly illustrates the restrained introverts, when he discusses how it takes his muscles a while to warm up when he starts to run. My dad really avoids socializing unlike me but idk. Introverts are also rather territorial. And the cool thing about building relationships online is… you can take time. If you’re not used to it, train in front of the mirror everyday. But chances are your friends will want to do. Social media has an unwritten rule of paying-it-forward. I’m an introvert, and i agree with alison and many of the other comments here. On the other hand, behavioral and cognitive therapy and medications like prozac have been shown to help kids with social anxiety. While it’s definitely easier to be an outgoing person who oozes confidence, introverts are important to society as well. And i like to listen rather than comment or join the conversation. I've always been an introvert, but i think as i've aged, i've become more aware of how this makes me feel and how my needs are different because of it. Why not engage a social media agency that not only gets results, but that does so for a third of the cost of employing an in-house social media manager. Introverted leaders communicate clearly and effectively through writing. Remember sitting at the dinner table as a kid not wanting to eat your broccoli. Introverts loose their words more easily, dislike eye-contact, and shirk when required to engage in "small talk. I was working backstage at an outdoor concert and was asked to walk out on stage in front of 15,000 people to give water bottles to all the performers. It also helps if you help them find a coworker with similar interests, it will speed up the adjustment process. Research shows that behavioral immune system, the psychological processes that infer infection risk from perceptual cues and respond to these perceptual cues through the activation of aversive emotions, may influence gregariousness. For instance, one study demonstrated that various features of one's goals, such as progress towards important goals or conflicts between them, can affect both emotional and cognitive well-being. Some of us have a habit of holding our breath. - an exercise that turns you into a socially savvy, charming badass. I think that's definitely part of the issue, when i'm meeting people who are less introverted than i am and who think my preferences are a bit too extreme. Extreme introverts may benefit from help during sessions with a school counselor. It’s because society tells us that the introvert’s way is. How introverts' brains are different than extroverts' brains.  she looks at ways for parents to interact with their introverted children, how introverts can “act” extroverted as required to fulfill the functions of their jobs. It's a carefully-crafted message from a self-actualized introvert that you are not defective, and you are not alone. You are not a shy, homebody wallflower; you are an introvert -- and there's nothing wrong with that.  everybody has ideas of what makes an introvert or an extrovert, or what they’re like… and they don’t necessarily match up with the reality. To think of the few introverts who did rise to the top in politics—calvin coolidge, richard nixon—is merely to drive home the point. But i do find that i just require more time alone to just do absolutely nothing solves the issue, although doing that leaves things in a mess as nothing gets done when i am home lol. Often when people think of introverts, they picture painfully shy individuals terrified of meeting new people and struggling to carry out conversations. While a career as a nurse or doctor might require too much social interaction for many introverts, they can still pursue different careers within the healthcare field. It's important to note how rare it is that someone is either purely extroverted or introverted. The difficulty with being an introvert in the world of social media is that i tend to engage best when my energy levels are up. Ies are normally people who were good students, and became good professionals. Or you could decide you're going to work at expanding the activities and socializing you do so you're doing a few more things that other people consider "fun" and they won't feel you'd hold them back. The social introvert comes from their internet site, that you can go via this particular link below. (introverts can still benefit from someone holding them accountable, she adds, so it can help to ask a friend to keep tabs on your progress. A roundtable discussion among my friends brought up three resounding traits: they’re socially awkward, they’re socially anxious and they’re wallflowers. Technology and social media platforms have empowered the introvert to connect and communicate their thoughts without face-to-face confrontation. Being a social introvert means you don’t see “recovery time” – aka time to be alone – as “anti-social” time. Cook: what are some of the other misconceptions about introverts and extroverts. Anomo is a social network for introverts, by introverts. It can feel safer to simply not participate at all. The workplace needs a better balance of introverts and extroverts, he says, not just at the leadership level, but throughout the ranks. Quick quiz: which of the following are signs of introversion. On social media, no one knows you’re an introvert, so you can choose not to be if you like. Being an introverted social worker. From an evolutionary perspective, there's a reason why both introversion and extroversion evolved, as both have fitness benefits and disadvantages depending on the context. I’m an introvert also and i’ve found that making small talk with strangers really helped me be able to express myself better. Even parents whose disappointments are more subtle may unknowingly be hurting their introverted child, says dr. If you're an introvert looking for love, you may feel like the deck is stacked against you. No matter what mayhem is happening around me, i know i can always turn inward. Matt, on the other hand, was the most gregarious and likable guy i think i've ever known. All you have to do is better your interpersonal skills so that these “negative aspects” don’t hinder your life in any way. Social media can be a good way to practice making the first move in your relationships. How can you tell the difference between social anxiety and introversion. "introverts prefer to work by themselves. But it important to understand that most people aren’t purely introvert or extroverts per see, rather most people have a healthy mix of both introversion and extroversion traits. At church we are ‘encouraged’ to be in connect groups, participate in group mission trips, group activities, etc. Often, they feel pushed to spend time in groups—that’s what society says is “right”—but their gut tells them to stay home. The illusion of social presence. My mother, on the other hand, is a shy extrovert. Nerd alert: another physical difference researchers have found in introverts is that they have more gray matter in the prefrontal cortex (the part of the brain responsible for decision-making). Hi, i love the music they're playing. After all, i often go out to meals by myself, sitting quite happily at my table in the restaurant with a book. At this time, a friend told me that i needed to speak up more, i think too much, etc. For example, you feel easily overwhelmed and flustered at the thought of adding anything to your to do list or adding anymore social contact into your life. Overall, from my personal perspective it has not always been easy being an introverted social worker. I'm an extrovert, and my husband is an introvert. Make sure to get social. They don’t patronize those they lead or supervise. “rather than networking, i sometimes say to clients i’m coaching that they should aim to engage in netfriending – chatting to people and trying to identify the one or two they genuinely like enough to consider possible friend material. Murakami, i would bet, is a restrained introvert. I would agree that socializing isn’t necessarily the barometer for introverstion & extroversion. "we just don't put ourselves out there as much as extraverts; and even when we do, we aren't as quick to make friends of strangers," writes author sophia dumbing in her book "introverts in love. We also both had noise-cancelling headphones, and would wear them as a proxy for “no talking directly to me unless it’s critical, but if you’re talking quietly on your phone or to another person, i’ll deal. In addition, doctors and nurses are responsible for gaining important information. But introversion does not need to be overcome nor can it be treated. And that’s just after doing a great deal of socializing with people i know well and feel very comfortable with. Isfjs make pleasant and reliable co-workers and exemplary employees, but tend to be harried and uncomfortable in supervisory roles. (some introverts are perfectly comfortable with public speaking, but stage fright afflicts us in disproportionate numbers. No room for small talk when you’re responsible for the lives of hundreds of people at any given moment. That’s why as an introvert, you have to implement a productivity system into your life and make sure that when you’re working alone, you’re really working. Introverts expect other people to get their extended logic, which is quite obvious to them. Introverts aren't necessarily "scared" to interact with others, they are just unenthusiastic about it. Some of the benefits of being an introverted social worker are:. • they prefer writing to talking. I do not drink coffee. ) consciously consider the types of people you’d want to have as friends. They can still be real extroverts when they feel like it, or when provoked, but that's not often. “if i’m at your event, you are special to me because being an introvert and having social anxiety, i choose my battles. Laney says her clients repeatedly show concern about their introverted children's marathon attention spans. Now it makes so much sense, good news is i am not alone. Instead of working to correct the public's perception of the word, cheek is essentially seeking to transform the way personality scientists think of the trait, by expanding the definition. The other side of that coin is that there is nothing basic to their makeup that stops introverts from talking as much as they like. Many introverts view their shyness as a serious roadblock to success. The less you need to ask for help, the less you'll have to rely on the help of others. The following are just a few of the signs that you (or someone you know) might be an introvert. It is not the same as shyness or having a withdrawn personality, and it is not pathological. Beme empowers users to share raw video without the ability to review it by sending it straight to your social media account. Susan cain: susan, i love that you use the word power in the title of your book, the power of introverts. And it’s really hard for me…but having read this article i can begin to find a way to balance my proclivity with its opposite while not having to feel that there is something wrong with me. I’d motion to zip it, and theyd pipe down. (how typically extrovert of me: a whole paragraph about myself and so little written to you, my beloved introverts). "i am a product trainer of lg electronics bangladesh, and this article contains information and how to trigger my introverted salesman into a extroverted person. Extroverts often think best when they are talking. I have worked hard on becoming the person that i want to be. We’re meticulous and focused. I did the test added to check how introverted i am because i already knew i'm an introvert and the result was that i'm more on the side of very introverted. Cain felt — had an intuition — that as an introvert she had value. I bring this up because it’s very easy to fall back into stereotypes about introverts and extroverts. Introverts, on the other hand, are often mistaken as unsocial or unfriendly because they are much more choosey about the people they invest time in. View each interaction, and each new social setting as a unique challenge, opportunity and adventure to meet new and wonderful people — who knows who you’ll meet, what you’ll learn, and what good could come to a stranger’s life thanks to your friendly smile. The introvert will need to spend time alone to “recharge” after a long time being social. If anyone who was complaining had bothered to read the first few paragraphs, they would have seen that the article was not, in fact, comparing introverted people to antisocial personality disorder people. Actually in the modern age people think they are very social when in reality they are not. However, there are a great number of works and research that have managed to analyze the introverted personality type and draw insightful conclusions. Others see it as a chore necessary for their jobs.